The most intimate and complex relationship that you will have is with yourself. You are going to have to live for yourself every single day. We all need to date ourselves to understand what we want or need. Singlehood is defined as the state of living for women, not in a romantic partnership. There is nothing wrong with focusing on yourself and taking time to date yourself. Getting to know yourself better will help your future self. Our current culture pressures us to have it all, often at the expense of ourselves. Some of us wake up in the morning and do not have what society wants us to have in our lives. Getting to know yourself is the best investment. The term dating yourself is a mix between knowing who you are and taking care of yourself. Dating yourself should include a lot of self-exploration, journaling sessions, nights spent at home getting comfortable with being on your own, and solo outings in the city. Being with yourself will open opportunities and peace within yourself. No matter your relationship status, you should be dating yourself and here’s how.
Why you should start dating yourself
Dating yourself is essential for building your highest self with your mind, career, housing and finances. Take yourself on a date to feed your soul and reset yourself. The solo date makes you feel good and empowered. You will learn about your limits, boundaries and who you want in your life. This is the time to dedicate yourself to your goals. You are your top priority in life. It boosts our confidence and teaches us to be independent in the real world.
You can thrive and enjoy nice things by yourself. We can do everything ourselves. This can prevent you from entering toxic, co-dependent relationships because you have boundaries and know your worth. You don't have to rely on the other person for validation, respect, or attention because you give yourself the validation, respect, and attention you deserve on your terms.
Take yourself on a solo self-care date.
You can date yourself even if you are single or in a relationship.
Take yourself out on dates and go to places you love; do things you enjoy. Try new things that you always wanted to do but with you. Explore things you’re too shy to ask someone else to do with you or go on a brave adventure. Go to dinners, movies, lectures, and workshops. Go on long hikes, visit the art museum, or stroll through a botanical garden. Enjoy coffee and baked goods in the bookstore café while you look at a few books.
Solo self-care date ideas
Go to a Museum or Art Gallery
Book a Yoga or Fitness Class
Have a Mini-Photoshoot.
Take a Cooking Class
Get Dinner and See a Movie
Be a Tourist in Your Own Town.
Go see a movie alone.
Book a facial
Cook a fancy meal for yourself
Treat yourself to dinner out
Try an at-home spa night
Take a class
Plan a staycation
Get a manicure
Teach yourself a new craft
Host a solo wine and paint night
Try a new fitness class
Take yourself on a picnic
Go on a shopping spree
Hit up a new bookstore
Read in a coffee shop
Explore a new park
Plan a solo camping trip
Treat your pet to something they love
Get dolled up and take photos
Buy yourself some jewelry
Give yourself a massage
Spruce up your space for the night
Visit a museum
Hit the local farmer's market
Run a bath and read a spicy romance novel
Take yourself to bed
Masturbate in your bedroom or bathroom
Spend an afternoon at a winery or brewery
Go to a concert alone
Plan a tech-free weekend
Meditate or find your zen
How to date yourself + take yourself on a date & benefits of solo dating
How to date yourself + take yourself on a date & benefits of solo dating
