PICK ME GIRL ON DISPLAY 

A "pick-me girl" is often seen as someone who seeks validation by putting down other women or emphasizing traits that align with traditional gender expectations, hoping to gain approval from men. 


CHOOSE NOT TO BE PICK ME GIRL 

Pick-me girl is a problematic and misogynistic term that is harmful for girls growing up. Women don't need to tear down other women and do anything in their power to get the guy. In the 2005 episode of Grey’s Anatomy, Ellen Pompeo’s character Meredith Grey begged Patrick Dempsey’s character Derek Shepherd to choose her over his wife with the line, “Pick me. Choose me. Love me.” Being desperate for men's attention and pushing women under the bus is not socially acceptable. #Pickmegirl hashtag has over 3.4 billion views on social media.

Our Guide to not being a tragic tale of a pick me girl 

“Pick me girl” trend is toxic and pins women against each other. 

Avoid that behaviour, promoting self-confidence and healthy relationships with others


 1. Build Self-Worth

Confidence in Who You Are: Instead of seeking validation from others, especially men, focus on building inner confidence. Know that your worth isn’t dependent on others' approval.

 Practice Self-Acceptance: Embrace your flaws and unique qualities. Be proud of who you are without the need to compare yourself to others.

2. Uplift Other Women

Support vs. Compete: Rather than putting other women down to gain attention, celebrate their successes and support them. Understand that someone else’s win isn’t your loss.

Avoid Negative Comparisons: Don’t tear down other women to make yourself feel better. Embrace the idea that women can thrive together.

3. Be Authentic

 Avoid Overcompensating: Don’t pretend to be something you’re not just to fit in. Authenticity is far more attractive than trying to mold yourself to others' expectations.

Stay True to Your Interests: Engage in activities and interests because you genuinely enjoy them, not because you think it will make you more desirable.

4. Respect Boundaries

Don’t Change for Attention: Avoid altering your behavior or opinions just to be liked. Healthy relationships are based on mutual respect, not on how much you conform.

Value Boundaries: Maintain respect for your boundaries and those of others. Be mindful of trying too hard to please people at the cost of your integrity.

5. Practice Healthy Relationships with Men

Don’t Seek Male Validation: Your value is not determined by how men perceive you. Focus on building balanced and respectful connections with people, regardless of gender.

Avoid Stereotyping Men: Don’t assume all men expect or want the same things. Avoid acting in ways you think will “win them over” based on outdated gender expectations.

6. Encourage Feminine Solidarity

Embrace Feminism: Empower yourself and other women by supporting gender equality and rejecting outdated gender roles.

Avoid Gender Role Reinforcement: Don't overly highlight traditional female stereotypes in ways that diminish women or others around you.

7. Cultivate Genuine Interests

Explore Your Passions: Develop hobbies and skills that genuinely interest you, not because they make you more “likeable” to a specific group.

Stay Curious and Open-Minded: Engage in new experiences to expand your horizons, not to gain attention.

Final Tips:

   - Don’t Fear Rejection: Being yourself might not always please everyone, and that’s okay. It’s better to be loved for who you are than for trying to be someone you're not.

   - Celebrate Other Women’s Wins: Empowering other women strengthens your community and shifts the focus away from seeking attention.