Once upon a time, we obsessed over fairytale stories about a princess and prince falling in love. I thought all l needed was prince charming to find me. He would be the only person for me. We would live happily ever after. The fairytale dream isn't happening in real life. Sadly, that dream can't happen because I am an asexual woman who does not want a romantic partner. I am not going to be alone. People must reject the notion that true love is the only way to find happiness. Being Self-partnered is embracing your status without the negativity of being single. 


In an article in British Vogue, Harry Potter star Emma Waston describes herself as self-partnered. "I never believed the whole 'I'm happy single' spiel," she continues. "I was like, 'This is spiel.' It took me a long time, but I'm very happy [being single]. I call it being self-partnered, according to British Vogue.


Self-partnered is more than a millennial concept; it's a lifestyle choice. Being single is usually associated with something wrong with you, desperate, unattractive, and even antisocial. Choosing to identify as a self-partner needs to be 100% embraced by women in today's society. 


Being a single person is necessary for our growth. Self-partnered focuses on the positive aspects of being a single woman. It's beautiful to be alone and figure out who you are as a woman. Self-partnered is about enjoying your own company. Being the main character of your life should be taking yourself by having solo self-care dates and romanticizing running errands. You don't need someone to complete you as a person. 


Do the work on yourself so your future self is thriving. It's all about personal growth in your life. There are so many other things focused including personal goals, saving energy for friends and family, career aspirations, health, financial issues, and living situation. Build on this opportunity in your dream life. 


Self-partnered is challenging narratives behind the phrases being single. Embracing your single status should be celebrated. Life doesn't always happen like in the fairytale. Real life is messy, complicated and painful. Being a self-partner is living your fairytale, and you're the main character. Single-positivity is creating your path and rejecting the notion that you need a partner. 


One of the most important relationships you will have is with yourself and yourself only. This relationship is so intimate and does not bull shit you. Being single is a chance for valuable. Having the opportunity to learn about your likes/dislikes happen when you focus on yourself. Your authentic self will emerge whenever you open yourself to new possibilities.


Spoiler alert: Do whatever you want when you want to do it. It's okay to invest in what you want or need. Our life is about archiving things such as dream careers, relationship status, property, material items, etc. Being a single person can focus on your dreams without anyone distracting you. Someday, it will click your dream person or life will be there.