In the dating department, I'm a late bloomer. Due to a romantic heartbreak, I'm fed up with boys and dating. Dating is physically and emotionally draining. The talking stage is more disappointing than anything else. Men's relationship perceptions are changing due to today's society, dating apps, and economy. Swiping left means options for them.

Boy sober will always be the cure for a bad romance. Boy sober is prioritizing yourself and stepping back from romantic or emotional entanglements with men to focus on personal growth, clarity, and independence. Our society is changing and there is a higher rate of women single. Focusing all your energy on marriage and ‘soulmates’ is out. Women using their energy on finding inner peace, self-development, and building stronger friendships documented on social media.

At ages 40 and above, more than 7 in 10 women (71 percent) are completely uninterested in dating or romantic relationships, compared to 42 percent of men. Among younger adults, the difference is just 39 percent for women, compared to 33 percent for men according to Psychology Today.

With apps offering convenience, accessibility and the promise of connection at the swipe of a finger, dating is more challenging than ever. You have options until you have no options. The idea of starting over and hoping for a different outcome is exhausting. Finding a diamond in the rough is almost impossible and that is an Aladdin reference. Today's modern women are boy sober because the dating pool has turned toxic and tainted.

Boy Sober Rules


1. Set Your Intention

• Define your “why.” Are you focusing on healing, self-growth, or achieving personal goals?

• Write it down to remind yourself of your purpose during moments of doubt.


2. Establish Boundaries

• Limit interactions or dynamics that might pull you into emotional attachments.

• Avoid entertaining situationships, texting “for fun,” or seeking validation.


3. Unfollow and Detox

• Unfollow or mute people on social media who trigger emotional dependency or comparisons.

• Block or distance yourself from exes or crushes if necessary to maintain your peace.


4. Rediscover Yourself

• Focus on hobbies, passions, or skills you’ve neglected.

• Try new activities to build confidence and meet like-minded people (e.g., painting, yoga, or solo travel).


5. Fill Your Time Intentionally

• Replace time spent thinking about or texting boys with self-care, career planning, or bonding with friends and family.


6. Build Emotional Independence

• Journal about your feelings and unpack any patterns or dependencies.

• Learn to self-soothe and validate your emotions without external input.


7. Be Honest with Friends

• Let your friends know you’re focusing on being boy sober so they can support your boundaries.

• Avoid peer pressure to “just talk to him” or “give it a chance.”


8. Focus on Your Growth

• Work on your mental, physical, and emotional health. This could mean therapy, working out, or learning a new skill.

• Celebrate milestones in your personal journey.


9. Practice Gratitude

• Be thankful for your freedom, peace, and ability to focus on yourself.

• Reflect on the benefits of staying boy sober, like clarity and self-respect.


Tips to Stay Boy Sober

• Daily Affirmations: Remind yourself, “I am enough,” or “I attract what aligns with my values.”

• Read Inspiring Books: Look into books about self-love, boundaries, or personal empowerment.

• Avoid Triggers: Stay away from romantic movies or social media accounts that romanticize unhealthy relationships.

• Create a Reward System: Treat yourself when you reach milestones (e.g., 30 days of being boy sober).


The Benefits of Being Boy Sober

• Increased confidence and self-worth.

• More time and energy for your goals and passions.

• Improved emotional clarity and stability.

• Strengthened friendships and other non-romantic relationships.

Takeaway

Remember, this phase is about you. You’re prioritizing your growth and building a solid foundation for yourself not others. Your investing in you while living your life. Boy sober living is experience for all people need in their lifetime.