WE DON'T TALK ABOUT BOYS (NO NO NO NO)

Dating is an exhausting cycle of disappointment, especially with modern dating culture being so inconsistent. If you find yourself constantly dealing with situationships, low-effort men, or emotional unavailability, it might be time to step back and focus on yourself instead. Dating boys in 2025 might not be worth your time and effort. Don’t use your energy on things that don’t benefit you. Instead become the best version of yourself.


Why You Shouldn’t Date Boys RIGHT NOW

1. Bare Minimum Effort is the Norm

• Many men expect praise for doing the smallest things, like sending a good morning text or planning a basic date. The bar is so low that anything slightly above ghosting feels like effort.

2. Situationship Culture is at an All-Time High

• Commitment is rare, and many men prefer keeping things vague so they can have all the benefits of a relationship without the responsibility. You deserve clarity, not confusion.

3. Hookup Culture is Prioritized Over Emotional Depth

• With dating apps and social media making everything feel replaceable, genuine connections are harder to come by. A lot of men avoid deep emotional investment in favor of casual flings.

4. Many Men are Emotionally Immature

• A lot of men haven’t done the self-work needed for a healthy relationship, leaving you to deal with their insecurities, lack of communication, and emotional unavailability.

5. You Waste Energy Trying to “Fix” or “Change” Them

• If you’re constantly making excuses for a guy’s behavior or hoping he’ll change, you’re draining your own energy. Instead of investing in someone’s potential, invest in yourself.

6. They Don’t Prioritize Women’s Needs

• Many men lack the emotional intelligence to understand or care about what women truly want in a relationship, often leaving you feeling unseen and unappreciated.


What to Do Instead? Focus on Yourself

1. Invest in Your Glow-Up

• Focus on self-care, fitness, skincare, fashion, and anything that makes you feel confident and beautiful. A “glow-up” isn’t just physical—it’s about feeling your best inside and out.

2. Build Your Dream Life

• Instead of waiting for someone to give you a “princess treatment,” create a lifestyle where you treat yourself that way. Travel, start new hobbies, and design a life you love.

3. Level Up Financially

• Get serious about your money. Focus on savings, investments, career growth, and financial independence so you never have to rely on a man to upgrade your lifestyle.

4. Strengthen Your Friendships

• Romantic love isn’t the only kind of love that matters. Pour into friendships with women who uplift and support you.

5. Develop a High-Value Mindset

• Stop settling for low-effort men. Set your standards high and stick to them. A man should add to your life, not drain you.

6. Romanticize Being Single

• Date yourself. Take yourself out, buy yourself flowers, and create magical moments in your own life. Being single is powerful when you embrace it fully.


Final Thoughts


Stop settling for low effort and no future. If dating has felt like a disappointment, take it as a sign to focus on yourself full-time. Meeting someone new is work and it takes time. This can be true, the right man will come when you’re too busy living your best life to chase him. Be your own main character in your self-romance novel.